Parts Work Spiritual Direction
When I first discovered my husband's hidden addiction, I immediately began voraciously devouring as much information on addiction and betrayal as I could. I learned about the roots of addiction, boundaries, the impact of betrayal, and all kinds of coping tools. It felt so good to gain an understanding of what I was facing, and I felt confident that, armed with knowledge, I could save myself and my relationship. I part of me believed information would fix everything.
But instead, a painful pattern of betrayal arose within my marriage and persisted for two decades. Though I continued to seek more and more knowledge, hopeless began to overwhelm me. Another part of me believed that if I could just become a better wife and homemaker, and I drove myself to exhaustion. Yet another part of me held painful beliefs: "You are pathetic! Who stays with a man who lies to your face?" This part of me lashed out in anger at my husband and contained a rage I had never felt in myself before.
I could not figure out why I couldn't actually seem to USE all the knowledge I had gained. All my striving to be just better always ended in burnout. I couldn't stand the way I felt after yelling at my husband.
Internally, I was at war with myself.
Thankfully, after eight different attempts at therapy, I began working with someone trained in Parts Work. With his support, I began carefully and compassionately examining each of these different ideas parts of me had to "help" me and how I could unburden those parts so that their help could actually be effective. The book, Altogether You by Jenna Riemersma, became a foundational tool for process what kept me stuck and envisioning how I could move forward. Slowly, long-stored information came to life and was put into practice, striving for perfection was replaced with working within my strengths and gently growing in areas of weakness, and rage became a fuel for healthy boundaries, new life pursuits, and peaceful self-confidence.
*Listen below to Jenna herself describe Parts Work.
As your spiritual director and coach, meeting every part of you is a true honor. I admire the vulnerability my clients bring to their sessions as they take the risk of deep introspection in order to finally live out their deeply held values. Every part of you is welcomed and respected as we process what your parts need to thrive.
Follow this link for a free consultation and learn more about how Parts Work Spiritual Direction can support your healing from betrayal.
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Disclaimer: Coaching is not a therapy nor is it meant to help anyone with psychological disorders. If you are looking for help for psychological disorders, please contact a professional.
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